Most people are not treating their partners well in marriages today because of their bitter past relationships – Rev. Kankam urges all to let go to grow
Rev. Vincent Kankam offered a sobering but compassionate insight into the struggles many face in their relationships. Speaking directly to listeners and viewers with his characteristic warmth and clarity, he addressed a pattern that has quietly crept into the hearts of many, how past relationship wounds are negatively shaping present ones.
“Most people are not treating their partners well,” he said, “not because they are bad people, but because they are still living in the pain of their bitter past relationships.” His words echoed a deep truth that resonated with many. Too often, the scars of betrayal, abandonment, or emotional neglect become walls that block vulnerability, love, and trust from flowing freely in new relationships.
Rev. Kankam did not only offer condemnation, but rather a call to inner awareness and healing. “Do away with that,” he urged. “That’s not who you are.” With these words, he reminded listeners that identity should not be defined by what happened to them but by who they are at their core, capable of love, worthy of love, and responsible for how they love others.
The message is particularly timely in an age where emotional self-protection has often become a survival strategy. But Rev. Kankam made it clear: carrying bitterness from the past into the present only perpetuates cycles of hurt. Partners who may have nothing to do with old wounds end up paying the emotional price, while those holding onto pain lose the chance to experience the fullness of connection.
Instead of letting old wounds dictate present behavior, he encouraged self-reflection, forgiveness, and personal growth. “Healing is not just about forgetting the past,” he explained. “It’s about refusing to let it control your present and sabotage your future.”
The Food For Thought show has long been known for its practical and spiritually grounded advice, but this particular message struck a universal chord. Everyone has experienced emotional pain in some form, but Rev. Kankam’s reminder to “let go, so you can grow” offered both challenge and hope.
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