Dr. Victoria Hamah: ‘When it mattered most, I was alone

Dr. Victoria Lakshmi Hamah, former Deputy Minister of Communications, has spoken about a painful experience of public humiliation, media lynching and betrayal, saying it taught her that she was alone when she needed support the most.

In her Facebook post, which has attracted numerous sympathetic and encouraging comments on Saturday, August 29, 2026, Dr Hamah, in a deeply personal reflection, said: “I have painfully realised that family is an illusion”.

She said she reached the realisation after being publicly humiliated, subjected to media lynching, and betrayed by people closest to her.

“When I was publicly humiliated, subjected to media lynching, and betrayed by those closest to me, I learned the hardest truth of all: when it mattered most, I was alone,” she said.

The former deputy minister said the experience had led her to a painful conclusion about family and the support people expect from close relations during difficult moments.

Dr Hamah concluded her reflection with the assertion that, despite the presence of people she considered close to her, she was ultimately alone when it mattered most.

*Mixed reactions / perspectives*

The post attracted comments from Facebook users, with some expressing sympathy and encouraging her to move forward, while others offered different perspectives on her experience.

One user told Dr Hamah that “the storm is over” and praised her for finding the strength to move on despite having to walk away from people she once believed would stand by her.

The user said life sometimes teaches people its hardest lessons through those they love most and encouraged Dr Hamah not to feel guilty for choosing her peace.

“Family is not always about blood. Sometimes the people who genuinely love, support and celebrate you become your true family,” the user wrote.

The user also said people were “cheering you on, praying for you and rooting for everything beautiful that lies ahead”, while wishing her peace, healing, genuine love and happiness.

Another Facebook user encouraged Dr Hamah to consider writing a book, saying she had experiences and wisdom from which others could benefit.

“Put this deep wisdom and experiences into a book,” the user wrote, adding that Dr Hamah had the ability to “distill issues and evoke relevant conversations.”

Another commenter described her reflection as a “very painful recall” and thanked God that she had overcome the experience.

The user, however, said being alone was not necessarily the problem but rather how a person manages such moments and creates opportunities, before encouraging Dr Hamah to turn to Jesus.

A different Facebook user offered a more critical perspective, suggesting that Dr Hamah’s family members may have distanced themselves because of statements she had previously made.

The user said Dr Hamah had made the statements herself without considering their impact on her family members and suggested that some relatives might distance themselves when a person strays from their values and norms.

However, the commenter added that family members should still have reached out privately to offer comfort and support.

“My sister forgive and move forward,” the user wrote.

Another commenter said that, in the material world, there were some lessons people had to go through alone.

One user also shared a personal recollection of Dr Hamah’s experience, saying they had admired and defended her while they were a high school student.

The commenter said the experience had taught them that “people at work and family could be the real haters” and recalled defending Dr Hamah whenever her situation was discussed.

The user also expressed admiration for Dr Hamah’s political potential and said they believed she would have another opportunity to serve the country.

“Vicky you are the best politician I’ve ever loved. Woman King,” the user wrote.

These were alongside countless sympathetic and motivational comments from Facebook users who reacted to her post.