“Don’t waste time on prejudiced minds” – Kessben FM’s Rev. Vincent Kankam cautions against oversharing in the name of explaining yourself
Rev. Vincent Kankam, the well-respected host of Kessben FM’s popular Dawn Motivational Show, recently shared a powerful message with his listeners, cautioning against oversharing personal information in an attempt to explain oneself to individuals who will never fully understand or believe you. In his candid remarks, Rev. Kankam stressed the importance of protecting one’s energy and time, particularly when engaging with people who are preoccupied with biases and prejudices.
In the course of his show, Rev. Kankam highlighted a common mistake that many people make—feeling the need to justify their actions, thoughts, or circumstances to others, even when those people have no intention of accepting or understanding the explanation. He pointed out that some individuals come with predetermined judgments, which are difficult to change, no matter how much you try to explain yourself. According to Rev. Kankam, these individuals’ minds are often locked in place, and engaging with them in an attempt to change their views is, in essence, a futile exercise.
“Some people are prejudiced, and no amount of explanation will alter their mindset. They’ve already made up their minds about you, and that’s where they stand. Don’t waste your time or energy trying to convince them otherwise,” Rev. Kankam asserted. “The reality is, when you over-explain yourself to these people, you are only putting yourself through unnecessary stress.”
His advice resonates with many who have experienced the frustration of feeling misunderstood or unjustly judged by others. In a world where social media, personal interactions, and even professional settings can sometimes lead to misinterpretations, Rev. Kankam’s words offer a refreshing reminder of the importance of self-worth and emotional boundaries.
Rather than focusing on changing the perceptions of those who are unwilling to see things from your perspective, he advocates for conserving one’s emotional energy and channeling it into relationships and situations where understanding is mutual. By doing so, individuals can protect their peace of mind and avoid the emotional drain of defending themselves in front of people who are not receptive to their point of view.
His message also encourages personal growth and self-assurance. “Trust yourself, and understand that not everyone needs to understand your journey,” Rev. Kankam concluded. “Stay true to who you are and keep moving forward. Don’t waste precious time explaining yourself to someone who is not willing to listen with an open mind.”
In an age where we are constantly bombarded by opinions and judgments, Rev. Kankam’s advice is a timely reminder to focus on what truly matters—your own well-being and your relationships with those who respect and support you.
