Understand your 'sexual response cycle'
We all love fantastic underwear, dirty talk and gorgeous silk bed sheets, but these things won’t help you get an orgasm (and if they do we want to hear from you!).
The key to having better orgasms isn’t stocking up on more sex toys or kinky nurses outfits, but learning more about how your body works and how you go about reaching climax.
According to the experts there are four stages you need to aware of;
1. Excitement or desire: This is when the brain converts our senses like touch, taste or smell into feelings of sexual arousal. This triggers increased blood flow, increased breathing and heart rate and a ‘sex flush’ which is where we become more physically aware of what’s going on below the belt.
There are some things we’re just never told in sex-ed classes! For example, did you know the whole of a woman’s body can be called an erogenous zone because female skin is 10 times more sensitive than men’s!
According to research, the average woman needs up to 45 minutes to be turned on enough to indulge in actual sex, which means foreplay is absolutely key. Things to look out for that show you’re ‘ready’ for intercourse are hardened nipples and a flattening and swelling of the Labia Majora (outer lips of the vagina).
2. Plateau: This is the period right before orgasm when your excitement is at its peak. This phase is much shorter in women than it is in men, which means he feels the urge to come for a much longer period of time.
The key to making the most of this is to don the stop-and-start method, which prolongs that feeling of orgasm before you actually have it.
3. Orgasm: Most women try and rush to this end result, when maximising the Plateau stage can actually make the resulting orgasm stronger and longer. An orgasm is actually a muscular release of tension triggering contractions in the pelvis.
The average O lasts around 15 seconds, with the chance of multiples increased if he eases pressure on the clitoris and focuses on the G-Spot.
4. Resolution: Your muscles will begin to relax and your breathing should go back to normal. At this stage the hormone prolactin is released, which leaves you feeling relaxed and tired.
What do you think?